Thread: Stalking Elle

Thanks for the update and I am so happy to hear that you have had time for skin to skin cuddles and a little feed !! Yey, its all going to go so much better from today I am very positive about it! I am sending you lots of hugs, you are doing amazingly good and Molly and Ali like you said are happy together - time with daddy is always fun, litlte girls get a bit spoilt and love it ! :-) Big hugs xxx ps I dont have your mobile number otherwise i would have txt you. :-( I have an old number x

You sound a lot more positive today and that's great, glad you got some s2s time and feed last night. Your right though, Ella needs you more just now and Molly is with her daddy she will be fine! They will come up today and you can all sit in neonatal and bond as a family of 4.

I don't think she will be in too long! Just keep up with the positives.. She will be home soon!

Have a nice day with her today and I'd you need anything just text me. I'm hoping she gets into your room today to get snuggles all night

Thanks everyone, it really has been a crazy 24 hours. Me and Molly are just fine (molly is looking after me! Said she would take me to bed last night as I was tired, but that she would come back down and watch tv.. But was out for the count in minutes ). We're just up now and getting ready to go in and see mummy and baby.

Ella seems fine to me - it really is difficult in these places. They also keep banging on about her being.slightly jaundiced... which is perfectly normal.for.a newborn baby! Honestly, they make out like its some rare condition... I have to wonder how parents who don't know that jaundice is very common feel when they're told these things. She's fae less yellow than Molly was at the same stage and that required no treatment. It's also hard for me.to even.hold her as the stupid wires get in the way and she starts rooting fairly quickly. Mainly at my armpit... Ahaha. They say they promote kangaroo care but.from what I can see they make it pretty much impossible!

My gut feeling is that she's fine but they really do scare you... They don't.want to take even the tiniest of.risks, which I guess is understandable, but thry use ridiculous scare tactics to get parents to be docile.

Oh gosh, only just catching up with this. Huge hugs and vibes heading your way, you are all doing a brilliant job!! xxx

So glad to read things are looking more positive today and that you managed to get in cuddles and feeding last night, @Elle. It sounds like Molly's doing a good job of keeping @Rambo on the straight and narrow that they're doing fine in the time they can't be in with you. Very much hoping you get to be home as a family of four as soon as possible though. Love to you all. xxx

Thanks everyone, very much appreciate all the kind words and support. Sorry if I don't text people back, signal here is terrible (hunched over the windowsill is the only place I get any!)

I spent a long time with her this morning. Seems the skin to skin and nursing did the trick! They've taken her off the oxygen, stopped tube feeding and she's doing just great - fed for ages and settled well. They do make me feel weird for hanging around plus I need to have some postnatal check so I'm back in my room waiting around.

I so need a shower but am waiting for Ali to bring my nice toiletries. "Safe soap" is fine for my hands, whatever it is, but I draw the line there ahaha. I am minging, the postnatal sweating has started today and wow these after pains can be intense but on the whole I feel pretty good.

Yesterday I felt like somebody had replaced my insides with fifty stone of jelly! It was so heavy and limp, I needed to be wheeled any sort of distance but now I'm getting about fine, tummy seems a bit smaller and the muscles seem to be slowly reappearing so I can stand upright! I was so massive this pregnancy, the effects have been really noticeable.

However... Despite Ella being just shy of 10lbs I haven't needed a single stitch. I have a few grazes but that's about it! Can't work out if this is good luck or if I maybe just have a massive vagina?

Anyway, feeling good today and Ali's bringing the laptop in so I'll feel more in touch with the world whilst I'm here. I'll try to get some pictures up later today.

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Aw I'm so glad things are getting better! I always wondered when I was working in SCBU what the mums did when they weren't there - if they felt they shouldn't be there all the time, or if they just weren't there at ward rounds times, or what. I'd be like you - there all the bleedin time

So glad you yourself are feeling better! It's hard to remember with all this making sure all right for Ella that you are ok too Ella sounds like a wee star, and fingers crossed you'll all be back together at home soon

They actually told us yesterday the mums aren't allowed in at certain times, I thought it was a bit much they should be allowed in all the time!

So glad your feeling better today. Glad she's off the oxygen and on the up! She will be home before you know it. Can pop in during visiting tomorrow x

Originally Posted by Twinkle Toes

They actually told us yesterday the mums aren't allowed in at certain times, I thought it was a bit much they should be allowed in all the time!

So glad your feeling better today. Glad she's off the oxygen and on the up! She will be home before you know it. Can pop in during visiting tomorrow x

It's not appropriate for mums of other babies to be in while the ward round is on and discussing the care of other babies though, afaik that's the only time they would actively ask mums to leave. Whether they feel pushed out at other times is another matter, and I'm sure some do

Glad to hear you are more positive today. IME, they really are incessant about "risks" regardless of how small. It takes you informing yourself and being as comfortable with whatever you decide. Because any "advice" they give really is scaremongering IME. Just nod and smile if they bring up new crap, tell them you will think about it and when they leave get on google and decide what the real facts are between that and what they say! You are Ella's mummy and you are a strong woman. I am sure you will make the right choices All I hear about FVR is that they are keen to get mums home asap but all I have seen is the opposite. Fishing and fishing for problems and keeping mum/baby in "just in case" ... (bitter? me? I do very much dislike FVR's maternal care that I have experienced)

Anyway, so glad to hear some positivity! Glad you got the skin to skin and that she is feeding a bit.